Probably on the toilet

Today I heard about the best Facebook hack ever: my friend’s housemates took her phone while she was out, and instead of doing the typical ‘im gay lol’ status, they friend requested over 70 people named Jerome and so she keeps finding random Jeromes in her newsfeed and I am so happy

posted 1 day ago with 40 notes

I did the interview I fucking did it

I made sure to discuss the differences between romantic / aesthetic / sexual attraction, the existence of sex positive and sex repulsed asexuals, the attitude towards asexuality by much of society and the fact that not all asexuals are celibate or dislike sex

Tomorrow I get the copy so I can see what they plan to write, and I’ll gently nudge them if they leave out any of these topics!

I now have a photoshoot on Thursday and I’m afraid

Also my cat just ran away from me

I did the interview I fucking did it

I made sure to discuss the differences between romantic / aesthetic / sexual attraction, the existence of sex positive and sex repulsed asexuals, the attitude towards asexuality by much of society and the fact that not all asexuals are celibate or dislike sex

Tomorrow I get the copy so I can see what they plan to write, and I’ll gently nudge them if they leave out any of these topics!

I now have a photoshoot on Thursday and I’m afraid

Also my cat just ran away from me

posted 2 days ago with 35 notes

Regarding the asexuality interview

My plan is as follows:

  • find out more about the angle of the piece - I’ve researched the journalist and she is credible, with a track record of highlighting gender and sexuality issues in a sensitive way. The only issue is that the newspaper itself is a tabloid, which obviously don’t have the best record for empathy!
  • confirm I will get copy approval, and they’ll stick to the copy approval agreed upon
  • ask not to have my surname printed / use a different name (because last time I did an interview, I got 3456394872 media requests) even with the photograph that they want of me. I don’t mind my face being used, as long as I don’t get another 934875 Facebook messages asking for TV appearances again!


Does that sound OK to people?! What other precautions can I take? I am v happy to do a feature that I think would raise awareness and be sensitive, which is why I would insist upon copy and print approval, so if there’s anything else that my more media savvy friends know I can do that would ensure this, please let me knoooooow

posted 2 days ago with 18 notes

I just got offered £1,000 to talk about asexuality as a ‘conventionally attractive young woman’ in a national newspaper
what
do
I
DO

posted 3 days ago with 39 notes

I FINISHED GIOVANNI’S ROOM AND OHHH OH GODDD I AM NOT EVEN SLIGHTLY ALL RIGHT

What a fucking beautiful and awful and wonderful and horrific book. I wept and it was half envy and half raw despair. I can’t recommend it because it hurts, but I can’t recommend it enough because it’s perfect. I will never write anything so incredible and I will never try because it is physically painful to think of some of the lines in that book.

Someone hold me. I may never love again.

posted 3 days ago with 8 notes

Firstly no I am not a wimp I am very punk rock and secondly you’re a meanie I’m telling my mum

posted 3 days ago with 44 notes
#fml

Having lunch out with my mummy and my grandma and oh god oh god the waitress is the most lovely and attractive human I have ever seen and I keep blushing and fumbling my order and oh god my non-heteronormativity is showing help

posted 4 days ago with 11 notes
#fml

The local ‘crazy man’ just walked in to the café and announced “they’ve passed a law in Parliament! Every citizen has to be happy at all times. And if they find out that you’re not happy, that you’re lying, then you’re in trouble. They send you to the colonies!”

I mean, I think his mind is an Orwell novel and I think maybe he’s more grounded in reality than the rest of us.

posted 5 days ago with 20 notes
#fml

When I was younger I thought ‘ftw’ meant ‘fuck the world’ so I used to post stuff like ‘grounded again, ftw’ and ‘can’t believe how shit the weather is, ftw’ and I bet everyone thought I was the most masochistic teenager ever

posted 6 days ago with 26 notes
#fml

Do not care if narcissistic, because if pride comes before a fall then I might as well be as proud as it is humanly possible to be.
0 days pull free - I haven’t had a pull free day in about 5 years - but many many days of acceptance, and the improvement I’ve seen in my hair since I accepted my trichotillomania as a part of myself has been tremendous. 
Yes, there are days where I wish I didn’t have the uncontrollable urge to pull out my own hair, but by and large, I’m very accepting of it. It is a character attribute which I possess. It’s in my DNA, I think; it’s been written so far into myself - my fingers know how and want to pull, my muscle memory calls for the action along with my synapses - that I honestly don’t think I could change it now if I wanted to. And I find that I don’t really want to; of course, it’s different for every person with trichotillomania, but I’ve learnt to recognise that patch on my crown that’s always fuzzy with regrowth, that line of frazzled hair along my parting that’s about three pulls away from never regrowing, and it’s all me.
For now, I’m all right with that. The peace that’s come with the acceptance has vastly reduced my stress levels and thus reduced my pulling, which was an unintended but admittedly pleasant side effect. For all I have accepted my pulling, I did used to dream of having long hair again, and if that goal is within reach then I’m not going to neglect it.
Fellow trichsters: if being pull-free is your end goal, then I absolutely salute you and wish you nothing but success on that route. However, I think it’s important that people know that there is more than one definition of success, and just because you can’t match your results up to someone else’s definition, it really doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

Do not care if narcissistic, because if pride comes before a fall then I might as well be as proud as it is humanly possible to be.

0 days pull free - I haven’t had a pull free day in about 5 years - but many many days of acceptance, and the improvement I’ve seen in my hair since I accepted my trichotillomania as a part of myself has been tremendous. 

Yes, there are days where I wish I didn’t have the uncontrollable urge to pull out my own hair, but by and large, I’m very accepting of it. It is a character attribute which I possess. It’s in my DNA, I think; it’s been written so far into myself - my fingers know how and want to pull, my muscle memory calls for the action along with my synapses - that I honestly don’t think I could change it now if I wanted to. And I find that I don’t really want to; of course, it’s different for every person with trichotillomania, but I’ve learnt to recognise that patch on my crown that’s always fuzzy with regrowth, that line of frazzled hair along my parting that’s about three pulls away from never regrowing, and it’s all me.

For now, I’m all right with that. The peace that’s come with the acceptance has vastly reduced my stress levels and thus reduced my pulling, which was an unintended but admittedly pleasant side effect. For all I have accepted my pulling, I did used to dream of having long hair again, and if that goal is within reach then I’m not going to neglect it.

Fellow trichsters: if being pull-free is your end goal, then I absolutely salute you and wish you nothing but success on that route. However, I think it’s important that people know that there is more than one definition of success, and just because you can’t match your results up to someone else’s definition, it really doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

posted 6 days ago with 18 notes

I’m sad for no reason today and so I worked mostly from home and then ordered a million weird coloured lipsticks and now I’m going to kill some Sims and I might finish Giovanni’s Room today and really I don’t think I’ll be sad at all tomorrow 

my bank balance might be, though

posted 6 days ago with 8 notes

And if I could gather
like sticks
all those hours we left
in between the cracks in the
pavement; in the
hollow-space 
where the earth meets the
sea, 
I would;

there is nothing without you
nothing at all
and I can’t make a
nowhere-home
in the spaces where
you’re not

and I could have had you
before
you gave me your hours
and I put them away
and forgot where they were

are they too lost
to live in again? 
Are you already on
your way out?
Are there so few 
hours left?

posted 6 days ago with 10 notes